Unconditional Love, Part 3 Class Resources
Class 1: April 21, 2024

Meditation 1: Field of Care
- Abdominal breathing.
• Sit in a relaxed way, with back comfortably straight, eyes gazing gently downward.
• Come down from the thinking mind into the body.
• Let the breath settle into its own natural rhythm while breathing into the abdomen so you feel it expand on each inhale. Feel the abdomen expanding and contracting with each breath.
• Let that feeling draw you into it more and more, breath by breath.
• Bring to mind your field of care: your caring moment, benefactor, or spiritual field.Bring this to mind notjust as a memory or an abstraction, but as happening right now present here with you now. You are being seen as deeply worthy of love and care, beyond judgments.
• Relax into the felt sense of this experience, steeping in its loving energy, feeling its tender qualities, and letting them infuse your whole being. Accept this loving energy and its qualities into your whole body and mind—into every part of your body, into every layer of feeling and emotion. As if every part of you is loved in its very being.
• Let any pattern of thought or feeling that arises during this mediation be gently embraced in the spacious warmth and acceptance of this field of care. Let any such pattern have all the space it needs within this field of care to relax, find its own place, and settle in its own time.
• If you lose the feeling of the loving quality, freshly recall your field of care as present here with you now, and let its loving power draw you back into the feeling of it. 2 of 6
• After a little while, just settle deeply into this felt sense of love, warmth, and acceptance. Let this help your heart and mind to just, relax, release all of its frameworks, and become completely open like space, beyond reference points. Let this total openness of awareness draw you into unity with it.
• Let any patterns of thought or feeling that arise just unwind and release within this utter openness, this space of deep allowing, by letting everything be.
(1) Name a few of the loving qualities that you experienced during step 2 of the meditation. This meditation helps us immediately start to access the loving qualities and dignity of our fundamental awareness, or buddhanature.(2) Identify a difficulty or problem that came up for you during the meditation at some point, which signals how some part of you was reacting to the meditation e.g.
• a part of you that wants to think about other things;• or a part of you that doubts any caring moment is good enough;• or a part of you that doesn't think that you deserve love;• or a part of you that wants to grieve the loss of someone brought to mind by your field of care.
Meditation 2: Becoming More Deeply Receptive to Love & Compassion
• Now bring to mind your field of care: your caring moment, or benefactor, or spiritual field. Bring this to mind not just as a memory or an abstraction, but as happening right now, present here with you now. You are being seen as deeply worthy of love and care, beyond judgments.• Relax into the felt sense of this experience, steeping in its loving energy, feeling its tender qualities, and letting them infuse your whole being. Accept this loving energy and its qualities into your whole body and mind—into every part of your body, into every layer of feeling and emotion. Every part of you loved in its very being. 4 of 6
• Feel the unconditional quality of this care.
• If part of you is having difficulty with this practice, or starts to draw your attention away, just settle back into your field of care and become compassionately aware of that part and its feelings in a fully allowing, spacious way. Let that part of you, and what its feeling, have all the space it needs within this field of care to find its own place and settle in its own time.
• If you lose the feeling of the loving qualities, freshly recall your field of care as present here with you now, and let its loving power draw you back into the feeling of it.
• After a little while, just settle deeply into this felt sense of love, warmth, and acceptance.
• Let this help your heart and mind to trust, relax, release all of its frameworks, and become completely open like space, beyond reference points.
• Let this total openness of awareness draw you into unity with it.
• Let any patterns of thought or feeling that arise just unwind and release within this utter openness, this space of deep allowing, by letting all be.
(1) This meditation purifies qualities of love and compassion toward greater unconditionality. We may start with an experience of relatively unconditional love, e.g., by reinhabiting a caring moment from our life, but its qualities become purified, stronger and more unconditional through the instruction (“Every part of you loved in its very being.”). This process brings out the unconditional capacity of love and compassion from our basic awareness, our buddha nature. From that secure base, we can bring greater unconditionality to others. 5 of 6(2) The mind is learning that it does not have to be totally identified with any one part of ourselves, by letting each part (each sense of self) be embraced in the compassion of our fuller awareness, which is larger than any part. Our basic awareness is freed from being caught up in any one part, not by rejecting it, but by holding each part in compassion. This is called “unblending.”
(3) In this way, we begin to reunite with our fuller, basic awareness (buddha nature, the depth of our being), the larger awareness that can embrace all parts of us—all senses of self and feelings—in compassion without being completely identified with, or caught up in, any one part.
(4) As all parts of us feel the deep safety and healing power of such unconditional acceptance and care, they can learn to trust the source of those loving qualities, which is our basic awareness. As this trust deepens with repetition of practice, at the releasing phase of the meditation, the mind is willing to release more fully into the total openness, clarity, and warmth of our basic awareness, our true nature. This process of deepening trust and fuller release, reunifying with the openness and clarity of our deep nature, begins to draw us into the deepening mode of practice.
(5) Just as our basic awareness, when not identified with any one part, can embrace all of our parts and feelings in unconditional care and compassion, the same awareness can hold others and their feelings in the same compassion, without contributing to emotional exhaustion or “compassion fatigue.” The utter openness, clarity and compassion of our basic awareness is our ultimate secure base, from which to extend love and compassion to others sustainably and inclusively.
Beings are numberless. I vow to save them.
Delusions are inexhaustible. I vow to end them.
Dharma gates are boundless. I vow to enter them.
Buddha's way is unsurpassable. I vow to become it.
Here is another expression, from 8th century Indian master Shantideva. His poem in nine chapters, The Way of the Bodhisattva, or the Bodhicharyavatara, is one of the great classics of Mahayana Buddhism.
Just as all the Buddhas of the past
Have brought forth the awakened mind,
And in the precepts of the Bodhisattvas
Step-by-step abode and trained,
Likewise, for the benefit of beings,
I will bring to birth the awakened mind,
And in those precepts, step-by-step
I will abide and train myself.
Those who thus with clear intelligence
Take hold of the awakened mind with bright and lucid joy,
That they may now increase what they have gained,
Should lift their hearts with praises such as these:
Today my life has given fruit.
This human state has now been well assumed.
Today I take my birth in Buddha’s line,
And have become the Buddha’s child and heir.
- UCL-3 Class 1 4-21-24.MP300:00
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Class 2: April 28, 2024

MEDITATION 4: COMPASSIONATE PRESENCE TO FEELINGS
Preparing for Meditation 4
In the field of care meditations 1 through 3, we learned how to provide a space of acceptance and care for all of our feelings, so they could process themselves in a deeply healing way, from which to become a more healing and loving presence to others. In the next meditation, called compassionate presence to feelings, we explore an even more direct way to become present to all of our feelings in a spaciously compassionate and healing way.
In this meditation, we learn how to welcome feelings into a compassionate space where they can relax, find their own place, settle in their own time, and deeply heal in their own natural way. “Feelings” here refers to the pleasant, unpleasant, and neutral feeling tones that accompany our physical and mental experiences, and to all the emotions with which they are associated. To train in this meditation prepares us to become compassionately present to all of our feelings in the same deeply healing way as they arise throughout our ordinary days.
Intense, stressful aspects of our daily lives trigger many difficult feelings in us. We typically try to avoid unpleasant feelings by trying to suppress them or distract ourselves from them. But when we repeatedly avoid or suppress feelings, over time, we tighten up inside, which manifests also as physical tightness. This inner stress and tightness make it difficult to open to the qualities available in our basic awareness that we cultivate in all of our practices—qualities of spaciousness, love, compassion, equanimity, and wisdom. Such stress and tightness also make it hard to be fully present to other people in an open-hearted and discerning way.
Meditation 4 shows us that we don’t have to avoid or suppress our feelings and reactions. Instead, we can become spaciously, compassionately present to them, in a way that helps them relax, settle, and find their own place—ultimately a place of inner healing and releasing. This transforms our ways of being with others, since our ability to be present to our own feelings with compassion is what enables us to be present to other people in the same way.
This practice has four principles:
- Notice the feeling within any state of mind or body.
- Fully allow it to have all the space it needs to find its own place.
- Rest with or within the feeling.
- Then just let everything be, with a sense of spaciousness.
MEDITATION 4: BECOMING COMPASSIONATELY PRESENT TO OUR FEELINGS
- Becoming compassionately present to bodily feelings:
- Sit in a relaxed way, with back comfortably straight, eyes gazing gently downward.
- Come down from the thinking mind into the body, letting the breath settle into its own natural rhythm, while inhaling into the abdomen.
- Now settle into the feeling of the body as a whole. Notice the physical sensation in any part of your body, and become aware of it in a deeply allowing way, without trying to change it at all. Just let it have all the space it needs to find its own way of being.
- If another physical sensation replaces it, become aware of that sensation in the same deeply allowing, spacious way.
- Becoming compassionately present to emotional feelings:
- Now sense whatever emotional feeling is present within you, from within your body. Not just thinking about it, but sensing how it feels from within. At first you may think you are not feeling anything, but often you can become aware of a subtle emotional feeling that wasn’t fully conscious to you, such as a little anxiety or worry, or liking or disliking a little how things are, or a feeling of trying to hold on to things, or feeling a little confused. Or you may feel a stronger emotion, like fear, frustration, annoyance, or joy. Or you may just feel numb. Those are all feelings with which you can practice.
- Or, if you wish, you are welcome to recall an emotional feeling that is quite familiar to you and let yourself feel it now.
- Become aware of that feeling within you, with a sense of deep permission for it—fully allowing it to be here, letting it have all the space it needs to find its own place gently welcoming it. Not being enmeshed in it, not rejecting it, not trying to solve or change anything in it, not ruminating about why it’s here. Like a friend quietly present to a friend, let this feeling have all the space it needs to find its own place and to settle in its own way.
- Rest with the feeling spaciously in that way, or rest within it, without trying to change anything, just letting everything be. One feeling may open into a further feeling and so on—just be with each feeling in the same spacious, accepting way.
- If part of you is having difficulty with this practice, notice the feeling within that reaction and become compassionately aware of that feeling in the same spacious way, letting it have all the space it needs to find its own place, to settle in its own time.
- When the mind wanders into chains of thinking, notice the feeling associated with those thoughts, and become present to that feeling in the same spacious, allowing way.
- As this practice deepens, you may find your mind resting right in the essence of a feeling, which may open into a sense of spaciousness, warmth, and peace from within. If that happens, just relax deeply into that experience and let everything be.
- Releasing:
- After some time, just settle fully into this feeling of spacious allowing. Let this help your mind to relax deeply, settle back a bit inwardly, release all frameworks of concern, and become completely open like space, beyond reference points. Whatever thoughts and feelings arise, just let them unwind and release within this sky-like openness of awareness, by letting everything be.
- Processing Meditation 4:
- This practice is done in meditation sessions in order to know how to do it throughout our day.
- We begin the practice with physical sensations, then became aware of emotional feelings.
- We learn to do this practice at any time with any feelings: physical or emotional, unpleasant, pleasant, strong feelings, subtle feelings.
- If there is no strong feeling at any moment, you can do the practice with your felt sense of body and mind at that moment, even with a subtle feeling of dullness or numbness.
This meditation take us into a way of being that is different from what we may have been accustomed to. This stirs up many emotions and reactions. In this way, the practice generates the material for compassionate presence to feelings. Whenever you are having a difficulty or reaction to any other practice, notice the feeling within that reaction, and do this practice of compassionate presence for a little while. If the feeling deeply settles, you can return to the practice at hand. Or you can continue with this practice of compassionate presence, letting things settle and deeply heal by themselves.
This practice is adapted from the handshake meditation teaching of Tsoknyi Rinpoche.
© Copyright 2022, John Makransky.
For further information and programs, visit sustainablecompassion.org
Adapted with permission of the author
MEDITATION 5: LETTING BE OF BODY, BREATH & MIND
Preparing for Meditation 5:
Meditations 1-4 bring out powers of love, compassion, spaciousness, and deep acceptance that can embrace all of our perceptions, thoughts, and feelings. In the final releasing phase of those meditations, we let those loving qualities help the mind feel safe enough to release its narrow frameworks and begin to settle deeply into the spacious ground of those loving qualities—a pervasive openness, clarity, simplicity and warmth of awareness that is beyond all constructs of mind. In that way, we start to settle into the deep nature of the mind, a unity of total openness and pure awareness—the empty, cognizant ground of experience. In the next meditation, “Letting be,” we learn to settle even more directly and fully into that spacious ground, to learn to reunify with it. That is the ultimate secure base from which to become more fully present to others.
MEDITATION 5: LETTING BE OF BODY, BREATH AND MIND -
- Abdominal breathing:
- Sit in a relaxed way, with back comfortably straight, eyes gazing gently downward. Come down from the thinking mind into the body, feeling the body as a whole. Let the breath settle into its own natural flow, while breathing from the abdomen. Let the weightiness of the body help the mind settle deeply into it.
2) Letting be of body:
- Notice any feeling of tightness or holding on within the body and let that relax, allowing all the bodily feelings to settle in their own way. Deeply let be into the body, by letting the body draw you into oneness with it more and more. As if the body is meditating you.
3) Letting be of breath:
- Still breathing from the abdomen, let the breath flow naturally, while feeling the full inhale and exhale. Notice any sense of holding on to the breathing process, and let that relax. Deeply let be into the breath, by letting the feeling of the breath draw you into oneness with it more and more, breath by breath. As if the breath is meditating you.
4) Letting be of mind:
- Now raise your eyes to look ahead, with a gentle panoramic gaze that spaciously encompasses the whole visual field.
- Leave all senses wide open, and just relax with that panoramic sense awareness.
- (Pause) Notice any grasping in the mind to any mental construct—i.e. holding on to any sense of self, thought, or framework of mind, and let that feeling of grasping relax deep within.
- Now let the mind settle back a bit inwardly and come to rest in the background of its awareness, which is naturally wide open like space.
- In this way, let the mind relax into the spacious backdrop of its awareness—wide open, pervasive, and radiant. Let all mental activities settle there, in their own time.
- Let this expanse of awareness gradually draw you into oneness with it more and more, by letting everything be.
Let patterns of thought or feeling that begin to form just unwind and release in this spacious expanse of openness and awareness, by letting all be. Let thoughts and feelings subside by themselves, as the mind relaxes into its natural openness, clarity and simplicity.
When the mind closes up again, holding on to a narrow frame of thought or feeling, let the mind again settle back into the natural spaciousness and clarity available in the background of its awareness, naturally wide open and radiant. Let patterns of thought and feeling that start to form just unwind and release within this openness of awareness.
© Copyright 2022, John Makransky.
For further information and programs, visit sustainablecompassion.org
Adapted with permission of the author
- Class 2- 4-28-24.MP300:00
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Class 3: May 5, 2024

MEDITATION 4: COMPASSIONATE PRESENCE TO FEELINGS
Preparing for Meditation 4
In the field of care meditations 1 through 3, we learned how to provide a space of acceptance and care for all of our feelings, so they could process themselves in a deeply healing way, from which to become a more healing and loving presence to others. In the next meditation, called compassionate presence to feelings, we explore an even more direct way to become present to all of our feelings in a spaciously compassionate and healing way.
In this meditation, we learn how to welcome feelings into a compassionate space where they can relax, find their own place, settle in their own time, and deeply heal in their own natural way. “Feelings” here refers to the pleasant, unpleasant, and neutral feeling tones that accompany our physical and mental experiences, and to all the emotions with which they are associated. To train in this meditation prepares us to become compassionately present to all of our feelings in the same deeply healing way as they arise throughout our ordinary days.
Intense, stressful aspects of our daily lives trigger many difficult feelings in us. We typically try to avoid unpleasant feelings by trying to suppress them or distract ourselves from them. But when we repeatedly avoid or suppress feelings, over time, we tighten up inside, which manifests also as physical tightness. This inner stress and tightness make it difficult to open to the qualities available in our basic awareness that we cultivate in all of our practices—qualities of spaciousness, love, compassion, equanimity, and wisdom. Such stress and tightness also make it hard to be fully present to other people in an open-hearted and discerning way.
Meditation 4 shows us that we don’t have to avoid or suppress our feelings and reactions. Instead, we can become spaciously, compassionately present to them, in a way that helps them relax, settle, and find their own place—ultimately a place of inner healing and releasing. This transforms our ways of being with others, since our ability to be present to our own feelings with compassion is what enables us to be present to other people in the same way.
This practice has four principles:
- Notice the feeling within any state of mind or body.
- Fully allow it to have all the space it needs to find its own place.
- Rest with or within the feeling.
- Then just let everything be, with a sense of spaciousness.
MEDITATION 4: BECOMING COMPASSIONATELY PRESENT TO OUR FEELINGS
- Becoming compassionately present to bodily feelings:
- Sit in a relaxed way, with back comfortably straight, eyes gazing gently downward.
- Come down from the thinking mind into the body, letting the breath settle into its own natural rhythm, while inhaling into the abdomen.
- Now settle into the feeling of the body as a whole. Notice the physical sensation in any part of your body, and become aware of it in a deeply allowing way, without trying to change it at all. Just let it have all the space it needs to find its own way of being.
- If another physical sensation replaces it, become aware of that sensation in the same deeply allowing, spacious way.
- Becoming compassionately present to emotional feelings:
- Now sense whatever emotional feeling is present within you, from within your body. Not just thinking about it, but sensing how it feels from within. At first you may think you are not feeling anything, but often you can become aware of a subtle emotional feeling that wasn’t fully conscious to you, such as a little anxiety or worry, or liking or disliking a little how things are, or a feeling of trying to hold on to things, or feeling a little confused. Or you may feel a stronger emotion, like fear, frustration, annoyance, or joy. Or you may just feel numb. Those are all feelings with which you can practice.
- Or, if you wish, you are welcome to recall an emotional feeling that is quite familiar to you and let yourself feel it now.
- Become aware of that feeling within you, with a sense of deep permission for it—fully allowing it to be here, letting it have all the space it needs to find its own place gently welcoming it. Not being enmeshed in it, not rejecting it, not trying to solve or change anything in it, not ruminating about why it’s here. Like a friend quietly present to a friend, let this feeling have all the space it needs to find its own place and to settle in its own way.
- Rest with the feeling spaciously in that way, or rest within it, without trying to change anything, just letting everything be. One feeling may open into a further feeling and so on—just be with each feeling in the same spacious, accepting way.
- If part of you is having difficulty with this practice, notice the feeling within that reaction and become compassionately aware of that feeling in the same spacious way, letting it have all the space it needs to find its own place, to settle in its own time.
- When the mind wanders into chains of thinking, notice the feeling associated with those thoughts, and become present to that feeling in the same spacious, allowing way.
- As this practice deepens, you may find your mind resting right in the essence of a feeling, which may open into a sense of spaciousness, warmth, and peace from within. If that happens, just relax deeply into that experience and let everything be.
- Releasing:
- After some time, just settle fully into this feeling of spacious allowing. Let this help your mind to relax deeply, settle back a bit inwardly, release all frameworks of concern, and become completely open like space, beyond reference points. Whatever thoughts and feelings arise, just let them unwind and release within this sky-like openness of awareness, by letting everything be.
- Processing Meditation 4:
- This practice is done in meditation sessions in order to know how to do it throughout our day.
- We begin the practice with physical sensations, then became aware of emotional feelings.
- We learn to do this practice at any time with any feelings: physical or emotional, unpleasant, pleasant, strong feelings, subtle feelings.
- If there is no strong feeling at any moment, you can do the practice with your felt sense of body and mind at that moment, even with a subtle feeling of dullness or numbness.
This meditation take us into a way of being that is different from what we may have been accustomed to. This stirs up many emotions and reactions. In this way, the practice generates the material for compassionate presence to feelings. Whenever you are having a difficulty or reaction to any other practice, notice the feeling within that reaction, and do this practice of compassionate presence for a little while. If the feeling deeply settles, you can return to the practice at hand. Or you can continue with this practice of compassionate presence, letting things settle and deeply heal by themselves.
This practice is adapted from the handshake meditation teaching of Tsoknyi Rinpoche.
© Copyright 2022, John Makransky.
For further information and programs, visit sustainablecompassion.org
Adapted with permission of the author
MEDITATION 5: LETTING BE OF BODY, BREATH & MIND
Preparing for Meditation 5:
Meditations 1-4 bring out powers of love, compassion, spaciousness, and deep acceptance that can embrace all of our perceptions, thoughts, and feelings. In the final releasing phase of those meditations, we let those loving qualities help the mind feel safe enough to release its narrow frameworks and begin to settle deeply into the spacious ground of those loving qualities—a pervasive openness, clarity, simplicity and warmth of awareness that is beyond all constructs of mind. In that way, we start to settle into the deep nature of the mind, a unity of total openness and pure awareness—the empty, cognizant ground of experience. In the next meditation, “Letting be,” we learn to settle even more directly and fully into that spacious ground, to learn to reunify with it. That is the ultimate secure base from which to become more fully present to others.
MEDITATION 5: LETTING BE OF BODY, BREATH AND MIND -
- Abdominal breathing:
- Sit in a relaxed way, with back comfortably straight, eyes gazing gently downward. Come down from the thinking mind into the body, feeling the body as a whole. Let the breath settle into its own natural flow, while breathing from the abdomen. Let the weightiness of the body help the mind settle deeply into it.
2) Letting be of body:
- Notice any feeling of tightness or holding on within the body and let that relax, allowing all the bodily feelings to settle in their own way. Deeply let be into the body, by letting the body draw you into oneness with it more and more. As if the body is meditating you.
3) Letting be of breath:
- Still breathing from the abdomen, let the breath flow naturally, while feeling the full inhale and exhale. Notice any sense of holding on to the breathing process, and let that relax. Deeply let be into the breath, by letting the feeling of the breath draw you into oneness with it more and more, breath by breath. As if the breath is meditating you.
4) Letting be of mind:
- Now raise your eyes to look ahead, with a gentle panoramic gaze that spaciously encompasses the whole visual field.
- Leave all senses wide open, and just relax with that panoramic sense awareness.
- (Pause) Notice any grasping in the mind to any mental construct—i.e. holding on to any sense of self, thought, or framework of mind, and let that feeling of grasping relax deep within.
- Now let the mind settle back a bit inwardly and come to rest in the background of its awareness, which is naturally wide open like space.
- In this way, let the mind relax into the spacious backdrop of its awareness—wide open, pervasive, and radiant. Let all mental activities settle there, in their own time.
- Let this expanse of awareness gradually draw you into oneness with it more and more, by letting everything be.
Let patterns of thought or feeling that begin to form just unwind and release in this spacious expanse of openness and awareness, by letting all be. Let thoughts and feelings subside by themselves, as the mind relaxes into its natural openness, clarity and simplicity.
When the mind closes up again, holding on to a narrow frame of thought or feeling, let the mind again settle back into the natural spaciousness and clarity available in the background of its awareness, naturally wide open and radiant. Let patterns of thought and feeling that start to form just unwind and release within this openness of awareness.
© Copyright 2022, John Makransky.
For further information and programs, visit sustainablecompassion.org
Adapted with permission of the author
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- UCL-3 Class 3 5-5-24.MP300:00
Class 4: May 12, 2024
MEDITATION 4: COMPASSIONATE PRESENCE TO FEELINGS
Preparing for Meditation 4
In the field of care meditations 1 through 3, we learned how to provide a space of acceptance and care for all of our feelings, so they could process themselves in a deeply healing way, from which to become a more healing and loving presence to others. In the next meditation, called compassionate presence to feelings, we explore an even more direct way to become present to all of our feelings in a spaciously compassionate and healing way.
In this meditation, we learn how to welcome feelings into a compassionate space where they can relax, find their own place, settle in their own time, and deeply heal in their own natural way. “Feelings” here refers to the pleasant, unpleasant, and neutral feeling tones that accompany our physical and mental experiences, and to all the emotions with which they are associated. To train in this meditation prepares us to become compassionately present to all of our feelings in the same deeply healing way as they arise throughout our ordinary days.
Intense, stressful aspects of our daily lives trigger many difficult feelings in us. We typically try to avoid unpleasant feelings by trying to suppress them or distract ourselves from them. But when we repeatedly avoid or suppress feelings, over time, we tighten up inside, which manifests also as physical tightness. This inner stress and tightness make it difficult to open to the qualities available in our basic awareness that we cultivate in all of our practices—qualities of spaciousness, love, compassion, equanimity, and wisdom. Such stress and tightness also make it hard to be fully present to other people in an open-hearted and discerning way.
Meditation 4 shows us that we don’t have to avoid or suppress our feelings and reactions. Instead, we can become spaciously, compassionately present to them, in a way that helps them relax, settle, and find their own place—ultimately a place of inner healing and releasing. This transforms our ways of being with others, since our ability to be present to our own feelings with compassion is what enables us to be present to other people in the same way.
This practice has four principles:
- Notice the feeling within any state of mind or body.
- Fully allow it to have all the space it needs to find its own place.
- Rest with or within the feeling.
- Then just let everything be, with a sense of spaciousness.
MEDITATION 4: BECOMING COMPASSIONATELY PRESENT TO OUR FEELINGS
- Becoming compassionately present to bodily feelings:
- Sit in a relaxed way, with back comfortably straight, eyes gazing gently downward.
- Come down from the thinking mind into the body, letting the breath settle into its own natural rhythm, while inhaling into the abdomen.
- Now settle into the feeling of the body as a whole. Notice the physical sensation in any part of your body, and become aware of it in a deeply allowing way, without trying to change it at all. Just let it have all the space it needs to find its own way of being.
- If another physical sensation replaces it, become aware of that sensation in the same deeply allowing, spacious way.
- Becoming compassionately present to emotional feelings:
- Now sense whatever emotional feeling is present within you, from within your body. Not just thinking about it, but sensing how it feels from within. At first you may think you are not feeling anything, but often you can become aware of a subtle emotional feeling that wasn’t fully conscious to you, such as a little anxiety or worry, or liking or disliking a little how things are, or a feeling of trying to hold on to things, or feeling a little confused. Or you may feel a stronger emotion, like fear, frustration, annoyance, or joy. Or you may just feel numb. Those are all feelings with which you can practice.
- Or, if you wish, you are welcome to recall an emotional feeling that is quite familiar to you and let yourself feel it now.
- Become aware of that feeling within you, with a sense of deep permission for it—fully allowing it to be here, letting it have all the space it needs to find its own place gently welcoming it. Not being enmeshed in it, not rejecting it, not trying to solve or change anything in it, not ruminating about why it’s here. Like a friend quietly present to a friend, let this feeling have all the space it needs to find its own place and to settle in its own way.
- Rest with the feeling spaciously in that way, or rest within it, without trying to change anything, just letting everything be. One feeling may open into a further feeling and so on—just be with each feeling in the same spacious, accepting way.
- If part of you is having difficulty with this practice, notice the feeling within that reaction and become compassionately aware of that feeling in the same spacious way, letting it have all the space it needs to find its own place, to settle in its own time.
- When the mind wanders into chains of thinking, notice the feeling associated with those thoughts, and become present to that feeling in the same spacious, allowing way.
- As this practice deepens, you may find your mind resting right in the essence of a feeling, which may open into a sense of spaciousness, warmth, and peace from within. If that happens, just relax deeply into that experience and let everything be.
- Releasing:
- After some time, just settle fully into this feeling of spacious allowing. Let this help your mind to relax deeply, settle back a bit inwardly, release all frameworks of concern, and become completely open like space, beyond reference points. Whatever thoughts and feelings arise, just let them unwind and release within this sky-like openness of awareness, by letting everything be.
- Processing Meditation 4:
- This practice is done in meditation sessions in order to know how to do it throughout our day.
- We begin the practice with physical sensations, then became aware of emotional feelings.
- We learn to do this practice at any time with any feelings: physical or emotional, unpleasant, pleasant, strong feelings, subtle feelings.
- If there is no strong feeling at any moment, you can do the practice with your felt sense of body and mind at that moment, even with a subtle feeling of dullness or numbness.
This meditation take us into a way of being that is different from what we may have been accustomed to. This stirs up many emotions and reactions. In this way, the practice generates the material for compassionate presence to feelings. Whenever you are having a difficulty or reaction to any other practice, notice the feeling within that reaction, and do this practice of compassionate presence for a little while. If the feeling deeply settles, you can return to the practice at hand. Or you can continue with this practice of compassionate presence, letting things settle and deeply heal by themselves.
This practice is adapted from the handshake meditation teaching of Tsoknyi Rinpoche.
© Copyright 2022, John Makransky.
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MEDITATION 5: LETTING BE OF BODY, BREATH & MIND
Preparing for Meditation 5:
Meditations 1-4 bring out powers of love, compassion, spaciousness, and deep acceptance that can embrace all of our perceptions, thoughts, and feelings. In the final releasing phase of those meditations, we let those loving qualities help the mind feel safe enough to release its narrow frameworks and begin to settle deeply into the spacious ground of those loving qualities—a pervasive openness, clarity, simplicity and warmth of awareness that is beyond all constructs of mind. In that way, we start to settle into the deep nature of the mind, a unity of total openness and pure awareness—the empty, cognizant ground of experience. In the next meditation, “Letting be,” we learn to settle even more directly and fully into that spacious ground, to learn to reunify with it. That is the ultimate secure base from which to become more fully present to others.
MEDITATION 5: LETTING BE OF BODY, BREATH AND MIND -
- Abdominal breathing:
- Sit in a relaxed way, with back comfortably straight, eyes gazing gently downward. Come down from the thinking mind into the body, feeling the body as a whole. Let the breath settle into its own natural flow, while breathing from the abdomen. Let the weightiness of the body help the mind settle deeply into it.
2) Letting be of body:
- Notice any feeling of tightness or holding on within the body and let that relax, allowing all the bodily feelings to settle in their own way. Deeply let be into the body, by letting the body draw you into oneness with it more and more. As if the body is meditating you.
3) Letting be of breath:
- Still breathing from the abdomen, let the breath flow naturally, while feeling the full inhale and exhale. Notice any sense of holding on to the breathing process, and let that relax. Deeply let be into the breath, by letting the feeling of the breath draw you into oneness with it more and more, breath by breath. As if the breath is meditating you.
4) Letting be of mind:
- Now raise your eyes to look ahead, with a gentle panoramic gaze that spaciously encompasses the whole visual field.
- Leave all senses wide open, and just relax with that panoramic sense awareness.
- (Pause) Notice any grasping in the mind to any mental construct—i.e. holding on to any sense of self, thought, or framework of mind, and let that feeling of grasping relax deep within.
- Now let the mind settle back a bit inwardly and come to rest in the background of its awareness, which is naturally wide open like space.
- In this way, let the mind relax into the spacious backdrop of its awareness—wide open, pervasive, and radiant. Let all mental activities settle there, in their own time.
- Let this expanse of awareness gradually draw you into oneness with it more and more, by letting everything be.
Let patterns of thought or feeling that begin to form just unwind and release in this spacious expanse of openness and awareness, by letting all be. Let thoughts and feelings subside by themselves, as the mind relaxes into its natural openness, clarity and simplicity.
When the mind closes up again, holding on to a narrow frame of thought or feeling, let the mind again settle back into the natural spaciousness and clarity available in the background of its awareness, naturally wide open and radiant. Let patterns of thought and feeling that start to form just unwind and release within this openness of awareness.
© Copyright 2022, John Makransky.
For further information and programs, visit sustainablecompassion.org
Adapted with permission of the author
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